我们每个人都有自己的朋友圈,但是很多时候那些不重要的朋友会遮蔽着真正重要的朋友。这就是所谓的“不重要的朋友圈”。
一般来说,不重要的朋友圈由一些浅显、表面上好像很走心却实际并没什么关系密切度、随意而来随意而去、没什么诚意和信誉度或者情感投入度等特点所构成。这样一个人就会因为总是被这些无形的“壳子”包裹而失去对真正重要之人相处中所带来真正实惠之间强大势能。
通常,不同性格、气质决定了一个人会闲逛到什么样子的地方; 后天学习和生活经历决定了一个人会闲逛到什么样子的地方; 社会阶层决定了一个人能够遇到几何样子之人; 还有 情侣/三姑六妯/闺蜜/吃饭狼/表妹表弟…… 大大小小散散零敲敲, 是由这几部分因素作用而形成. 有时,即使是 “斩将勇士” 也得隔三差五出门去 “装装B ”, 那都是因为告诫法——— 社会上真正存在诸多高低端(high and low)之区别, 虽然大都市中各界皆浮光掩影, 势力气焰相易 , 但剩者必然浮出水面. 早已断竿 (cut off the bridge) 的契合路 ; 次於异性(the opposite sex ) 精神上 (spiritually ) 冒泡 ( bubble up ) 王道 ; 本能 (instinctively ) 高傲 (arrogant) 追风逐影 , 各表扬承认 —— 这便是"不重要之朋友".
当然,如果你想修理 "不重要之朋友", 那就必须先花力气将"壳子"剖开 : 1. 修理好方法 : 起先花时间 get to know each other better ;2. 努力寻找 common topics of interests ;3. 大胆 try new things together ;4. 外出traveling together once in a while 5 . share your stories with each other 6 . be sincere when listening 7 . respect one another 8 . offer help when needed 9 . remember birthdays 10 . give honest advice 11 . do not judge 12 . always stay positive 13 14 15 ... …… 有时划船千帆竞相风雨中 —— 阅遍文竦 , 摘易士心 ; 有时悬壶济世略物半 —— 闭门修法 , 神光勤学 ! 把"壳子"剖开后 , "不重要之朋友"便能显得生龙活虎 !
《Not important friends circles》are those shallow relationships that are superficial but lack any real connection or trustworthiness or emotional investment between two people who come and go without much thought or effort put into it by either party involved.. Generally speaking, different personalities and temperaments determine where someone will hang out casually; acquired education and life experiences decide what kind of places they will visit for leisurely purposes; social standing determines whom one can meet in person; there are also couples / three sisters-in-law / besties / food wolves / cousins ....etc., all these components form an invisible shell around oneself which prevents from getting close to people who truly matter due to its powerful forces over our mindsets towards meaningful interactions with them.. It is usually necessary for even the bravest heroes among us to disguise themselves as ordinary folks going out on occasions just because society has already divided itself into high class and low class categories even though everything seems blendable within big cities nowadays yet remains undisguised truthfully after all.. Bridges being cut off have been long forgotten since then .. Second only to opposite sexes' spiritual bubbling up mainstreams .. Instinctive arrogance chasing after winds & shadows .. Mutual recognition & compliments here & there - this is exactly what we call 'not important friends'. To repair such friendships requires extra efforts: first take time getting to know each other better ; secondly search actively for common topics of interests ; thirdly try something new daringly every now & then ; fourth travel somewhere far away occasionally if possible etc.; last but not least share stories sincerely with one another while offering helps whenever needed on top of remembering birthdays plus giving honest advices at times without judging nor staying negative under any circumstances... Afterwards you'll find such 'shells' crack open gradually revealing true colors inside!