有些人可能会认为老公的朋友比自己重要，但实际上这并不是正确的。从理性的角度来看，夫妻之间应该坚持一个原则：家庭第一、伴侣关系永远比他人的关系重要得多。因此，考虑到当前情况，我们就必须明白老公对自己始终保持敏感和乐于助人的态度所表明出来的情况——即当新朋友出现时，老公也将在适当时候作出相同的亲密表态。如此一来，尽管她们之间存在竞争感甚至是隔阂感（特别是考虑到“三方”中存在女性时更加引人注目) ；但如果夫妻之间都能遵守该原则并保证各方都得到尊重和理解, 已婚部分也能衡量各个朋友所带来益处, 便能使整个生活得以浑然天成.
通常情况下, 过去、 现在、 未来三者中, 我们都要根据不同情况作出选择. 我们不必将新朋友眷顾得过于甜蜜(特别是对单独会面时更加注意), 但也不必遭遇前所未有般大战; 便可使大家皆大欢喜! 否则, 夫妻之间就会锲而不舍地出现裂隙. 长此以往, 必然构成一味勉强、 精神上栖飞四散中永远找不回信心! 此外, 要留意男女及新/ 老三者之间也存在断裂; 因此《誓《(Vow) 精神——"I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad" ——千万要牢牢牢固!
Angrily speaking out that one's husband's friends are more important than himself or herself is never a wise decision for any marriage relationship. It is essential for couples to observe the rule of "family first", which means that the relationship between spouses should always be prioritized over those with others outside their family circle regardless of how close they may feel towards them. In other words, it is only natural that when new friends appear at your life stage all at once or gradually as time passes by , your own spouse will act accordingly by displaying similar intimacy and care towards them as he does towards yourself . Therefore even if there exist some sense of competition or even alienation (particularly among the triad involving a woman ) between these parties involved , it can still be managed well if both sides stay open-minded and respectful while being able to recognize benefits each friend brings into the married couple 's lives . So don't think too much about who comes first but instead focus on how everyone around could work together harmoniously so that everybody benefits from such a delightful atmosphere created through mutual understanding - after all , this is what makes marriages last !
